Thursday, July 8, 2010

What do you do??

Momma Fargo just celebrated 22 years with her hubby. How cool is that? 22 years off her life sentence she said. Ha! I have this feeling (call me crazy) that she actually adores that man that's put up with her for so long (snicker snicker).

It seems marriage, or at least marriage long term and/or marriage done well, isn't such a common thing in police work. When Officer Hottie was in academy he was told that something like 80% of marriages don't survive the first five years after police academy. I don't know if that statistic is correct or not, but I know it sounds scary. I remember very clearly OH coming home, holding me and saying, "I will NOT let that happen to us." We're committed. We're in this for the long haul. Good or bad. Period. There's no escape plan, no exit route, no Plan B. It's us. Until death. That's it.

Honestly, I like it that way. OH and I come from a long line of committed marriages. All four sets of grandparents were only married to each other. Both of our parent's are still married to each other. Talk about stability.

I feel very strongly that marriage was created to be enjoyed; not tolerated. So I enjoy it. Very much. So far, it's my favorite. Even more than being a mom, or chocolate or sleeping in. Being a wife takes the cake. And although I would love to do an entire post on what Officer Hottie does to make sure that I enjoy being a wife so much, I will instead pose these questions:

How do you keep your marriage strong?
With all the failed marriages around, how do you keep it together?
With failure being an option for so many, how do you keep the temptation away?
What do YOU do to keep your husband coming home every night?
What does HE do to make sure you're home when he gets there?

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1 comment:

Mrs. Deputy said...

How do you keep your marriage strong?
-open communication is how we keep ours strong. Not holding it in and making sure we always get it out into the open.

With all the failed marriages around, how do you keep it together?
- same as above. communication is key. and we always make sure that we give each other atleast a half hour a day of undivided attention.

With failure being an option for so many, how do you keep the temptation away?
-there is no temptation for fail for us. We have worked too hard to get to where we are in our marriage to fail.

What do YOU do to keep your husband coming home every night?
-well mine comes home every morning.lol Im just me. I dont do anything special really. I just give him what he needs, love him unconditionally ( for the most part) and have faith in him that he will always tell me if his needs arent being met.

What does HE do to make sure you're home when he gets there?
-he trys to be romantic. it normally backfires on him one way or another..lol but its the little things. giving me small breaks from the kids, to making them a meal so i dont have to. giving me time away with friends if i want.